Why am I still single? I ask myself that question a lot. Is it me? Is it the guys I date? Or, is it just not my time?
But, then I take a look around me – I mean, look at my brother. He’s in the same boat as I am, which brings me to think that maybe it could be a genetic predisposition.
Listen, I just might have a valid point here. Look at us. My brother and I both have never been engaged. We have never been married. We have never had kids (that he knows of) and we are still both single to this day.
The question that sticks out to me the most is how have we both gone through life having pretty similar relationship experiences and have the same end result, when everyone else around us has a significant other?
We are both a lot alike in terms that we are both good-looking, articulate, intelligent, personable, and out-going. With those qualities, you would think that we would have been married off a long time ago, right?
Then, I start thinking that maybe we are both scared of making a commitment – that maybe this has been a self-fulfilling proficiency?
Case and point: A few years ago, I was living in Los Angeles and I invited Nathan to come to LA and join me and my friends in a large, pot-luck Thanksgiving dinner that one of my friends was throwing. This is his reply to my email:
Hey there sis. I am using our new laptop while I am eating lunch at the bar. I love this WiFi stuff. Not even plugged in anywhere. I am just so fucking high-tech.
Been thinking about Thanksgiving, and that it would be nice to spend Thanksgiving with you and your friends, but its going to be a real busy week here at the bar. Plus, my girlfriend’s folks have invited Mom and I to dinner that day, which makes me think….if I bring my Mom to meet her Mom…….and we all have dinner together….then what’s next?!
Pan-handling the streets
…and finally, a retirement community!
Shit! I just might try and find out if I can get a few days off that week and fly out!
Unfortunately, Nathan’s relationship didn’t last with his girlfriend, and we are now both…still…single. Again!
Oh, God. To add salt to the wound, I’ll throw in this story too: I remember one time we were both dating someone at the same time, which is very rare. So, to make things interesting, and because we clearly know our own history with dating, we bet each other $100 on whose relationship would last the longest.
We’re so bad.